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Being Thankful: Beyond Counting Blessings

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Our gratitude deepens when we begin to be thankful for being alive during this time and living the life we are living. Often when we practice being thankful, we go through the process of counting our blessings, acknowledging the wonderful people, things and places that make up our reality. While it is fine to be grateful for the good fortune we have accumulated, true thankfulness stems from a powerful comprehension of the gift of simply being alive, and when we feel it, we feel it regardless of our circumstances. In this deep state of gratitude, we recognize the purity of the experience of being, in and of itself, and our thankfulness is part and parcel of our awareness that we are one with this great mystery that is life. It is difficult for most of us to access this level of consciousness as we are very caught up in the ups and downs of our individual experiences in the world. The thing to remember about the world, though, is that it ebbs and flows, expands and contracts, giv

Letting Go with Forgiveness

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The following is an excerpt from the "Letting Go with Forgiveness" on-line course. If you would like to take the entire course,  click here . Welcome to Letting Go with Forgiveness Forgiveness is a very tender subject. It brings up lots of memories, emotions and desire in most of us. I'm glad you've chosen to explore forgiveness as a healing tool in your life, for it is a sacred journey. Forgiveness is the most powerful medicine I've found to heal the human heart. As your teacher and guide for the next 8 weeks, I'd like to introduce myself. Most people know me as a professional forgiveness counselor, certified Radical Forgiveness coach, mediator and author. I'm also the mother of two unbelievably amazing children (I know I'm biased, but it's actually true!). I've spent over 20 years learning and teaching about human psychology, spirituality, conflict and peace. I work with lots of people in all sorts of places and circumstances, inclu

Finding Your Pinnacle: Mountain Meditation

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Meditating near a mountain can be both powerful and grounding in a most profound way. Throughout history, humankind has stood in awe of mountains. The strength and sturdiness evident in the rocky crags and smooth slopes of peaks around the globe have from time immemorial inspired creativity and kindled courage. Mountains have been venerated by many cultures, which worshipped great summits as gods and sacred beings. In their looming presence, humanity has seen power, steadfastness, and resolve. Yet you needn't live near a mountain to tap into this vast energy of commanding grandeur. Conversely, since mountains are as unique in form as human beings, your locale may exist under the unwavering gaze of a small mountain without your knowing it. As you practice mountain meditation, the power that lurks in the heart of all mountains will flow into you while their essential beauty reminds you that you, too, are a creature of the earth. If there are mountains in your area, plan to sp

Now is the Time: Bloom Where You Are Planted

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The time to blossom is now, not sometime in the future when you believe the stars will be aligned for you. Having a vision for our future that differs from our current circumstances can be inspiring and exciting, but it can also keep us from fully committing to our present placement. We may become aware that this is happening when we notice our thoughts about the future distracting us from our participation in the moment. We may find upon searching our hearts that we are waiting for some future time or situation in order to self-actualize. This would be like a flower planted in North Dakota putting off blooming because it would prefer to do so in Illinois. There are no guarantees in this life, so when we hold back we do so at the risk of never fully blossoming. This present moment always offers us the ground in which we can take root and open our hearts now. What this means is that we live fully, wherever we are, not hesitating because conditions are not perfect, or we might en

Burdensome Feelings: Blaming Others

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We cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don't truly feel responsible for. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behavior. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner's bad behavior. Perhaps the problem lies with the activit

Seeing Ourselves: You Are Beautiful

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Many of us do not take the time to notice and acknowledge how beautiful we are as humans. Many of us do not take the time to notice and acknowledge how beautiful we are as humans. We may be great lovers of beauty, seeing it in the people, places, and things around us, while completely missing it in ourselves. Some of us feel that it is vain to consider our appearance too much, or we may find that when we look at ourselves, all we see are imperfections. Often we come to the mirror with expectations and preconceived notions about beauty that blind us from seeing ourselves clearly. As a result, we miss the beauty that is closest to us, the beauty we are. Sometimes we see our beauty in a shallow way, noticing how well we are conforming to social norms, but failing to see the deeper beauty that shines out from within and that will continue to shine regardless of how we measure up to society's ideal. If we can cut through all these obstacles and simply appreciate how beautiful we

Argument: Stepping Back from Anger

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The emotional trigger than begins an argument may have little to do with your present situation, but has dug up a wound. When we find ourselves in an argument, we may feel like we are losing control of emotions that have taken on lives of their own. When we can become aware that this is happening, taking a deep breath can help us step back from the situation. Once we can separate ourselves from the heat of the moment, we may find that the emotional trigger that began the argument has little to do with the present situation, but may have brought up feelings related to something else entirely. Looking honestly at what caused our reaction allows us to consciously respond more appropriately to the situation and make the best choices. We can make an agreement with our partners and those closest to us that asking questions can help all of us discover the source of the argument. The shared awareness can result in finding simple solutions to something physical, like low blood sugar or

Best Friends: A Warm Refuge

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Our best friends are a warm refuge in which we feel free to be fully ourselves. By the time we reach adulthood, many of us have had the good fortune to have at least one best friend. If we have moved around or changed our life situation repeatedly, we may be lucky enough to have had several. The best friend relationship is often our earliest intimate peer relationship, and it can be a source of great warmth and connection throughout our lives. The details of best friendship change as we grow up and grow older, but the heart of it remains the same. Our best friends are a warm refuge in which we feel free to be fully ourselves, to share our deepest secrets, to rest when we are tired, to celebrate when we are happy—a place in which we feel utterly welcome to give and receive that most precious of all gifts, love. Most intimate relationships hit bumps from time to time, and one of the hallmarks of an enduring best friendship is its ability to ride out the turbulence and remain inta

Animals in Nature: Messengers of Direction

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Animals in nature always have a message for us, start noticing what animals show up in your life and when. Animals share our planet with us, but experience it differently—each has its own abilities and gifts that allow them to interact successfully with the natural world. Since we are merely one manifestation of the universe's energy in action, when we feel the need for direction we can turn to animals in nature for guidance. Animals can show us different ways to approach and deal with our challenges. As we hold a question in mind, we can begin to pay attention to the animal activity around us. Staring out a window we may notice a bird soaring high in the sky, showing us how to look at our situation from a greater distance. If we don't get an immediate answer, we can remember that the universe has its own perfect timing that doesn't heed the ticking of the clock. Instead, we can release our question into the universe's care, and then trust that an animal messeng

Starry, Starry Night – Dr. Rob Kiltz

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Starry, starry night Life is perfect as thy sight Thy energy comes and thy energy lights On this starry, starry night We flow with thee and all that be For the stars guide and show of me This starry, starry night From dark you see to light it be And life be free for all I see That God is you and God is me As we flow in the heavens Life gifts and gifts from the heavens A starry, starry night And dreams I see of you and me And all there be It's perfect in the light of thee A starry, starry night I step this day into you and all I knew Is love is always new The gift it be is life you see And now I know that you are me And I am thee Always and forever the flow that be In the stars you see All eternal and energy of thee And I love all you be Thank God for the day and all thy play And blessings to all On this starry, starry night And the heavens we be Dr. Rob Read More @ Source

Dr. Rob Kiltz Talks with Skaneateles High School Students about Dreams

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The day that fertility specialist Dr. Robert Kiltz visited Skaneateles High School, students in Rick Garrett's biology class were expecting to learn about medicine, fertility and birth. But the lessons ended up being about living life, dreaming big, reaching high and taking risks. "What is YOUR dream?" Kiltz asked students as he worked his way around the big circle he had asked students to make with their desks. He waited patiently during uncomfortable pauses and laughter as students tried to come up with answers. "Dream big. Dream stupid," he urged students. "We don't take enough risk. Why? Fear of failure. But failure is OK. The more you fail the more you grow. How many times did Edison fail?" Kiltz wasn't always the successful fertility specialist with four clinics and 160 employees throughout New York State. He had dyslexia and struggled as a young student. "I grew up on the streets in LA in the wrong peer group," he sai

Skaneateles Students Learn to Catch Dreams: Inspired by Lynne Cox

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Photo of Sandy Drancsak, gym teacher, teaching about dreams to State Street School kids Written by Lori Ruhlman Lessons inspired by Lynne Cox, Students learn to catch dreams In addition to running and jumping during physical education classes at State Street School this fall, students are dreaming. Yes, dreaming. Physical Education teacher Sandy Drancsak is challenging students to dream about their futures, put those dreams in writing, and outline actual steps they can take to achieve their dreams. Students' dreams are appearing on clouds drawn on sheets of paper that line the hallways at the elementary school. "We want you to be dream catchers," Drancsak told fourth graders during a recent class, as they sat around her on the gym floor. She challenged students to start by coming up with a big dream. Next, she explained how people achieve dreams or wishes by setting goals. "How do we catch dreams? By taking baby steps," she said, explaining that th

Live a Conscious Life ~ Judith’s weekly tips

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  "Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi (1869-1948) Do you have the strength it takes to live a conscious life? In order to answer this question we need to look at what a conscious life is. The best way to do this is to look at the three levels of consciousness. First we have unconscious ; which means you are functioning and awake, but not paying much attention to your life or anything around you. An analogy for this would be; if life is like an iceberg and you were unconscious, you would crash into the iceberg before you were aware it was there and you would sink. Living life semi-consciously is when you believe your own stories. Anything that is not a pure fact is simply a story. Your stories are sometimes judgmental, opinionated and simply not the truth. We make some of our biggest mistakes when we are operating in a semi-conscious mode, because we only have partial facts. And what

Centered Silliness: Laughing Meditation

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When we laugh, we give ourselves over to the immediacy of the present moment and transcend stress. Many people might be surprised to think of laughter as a form of meditation. Yet not only is laughing meditation one of the simplest forms of meditation, but also it is a very powerful one. The physical act of laughing is one of the few actions involving the body, emotions, and the soul. When we laugh, we give ourselves over to the immediacy of the present moment. We also are able to momentarily transcend minor physical and mental stresses. Practiced in the morning, laughing meditation can lend a joyful quality to the entire day. Practiced in the evening, laughing meditation is a potent relaxant that has been known to inspire pleasant dreams. Laughter also can help open our eyes to previously unnoticed absurdities that can make life seem less serious. There are three stages to mindful laughter. Each stage can last anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes. The first stage involves stretching

Be the Solution Weekend

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Be the Solution Global Movement Begins in October 2012!! We have a vision that when people are aligned with their gifts and share them with others, recognizing there are unique differences, and commit to being fully who they are meant to be, we can create a ripple of possibility that travels throughout the world! We have a belief that when individuals are AWARE of their thoughts, CONNECTED to their feelings, CONSCIOUS of their decisions and COMMITTED to Positive Action, we can create a greater impact in our local communities and throughout the world. We have a belief that when we focus on the outcomes we desire and listen with intention, we are able to unite for a common cause. We believe that when we focus on solutions instead of challenges, we generate conversations that yield enhanced results. We have a desire to create ACCEPTANCE OF OTHERS in our schools, at work and in our communities. We want to start local and spread globally. Will you join us? Saturday October 27,

Habitual Anger: Unblocking the Ally

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Anger can easily become our go-to emotion; to remedy, start noticing when and why you get angry. Sometimes when we feel anger, it is coming from a deep place that demands acknowledgment and expression. At these times, it is important that we find healthy ways to honor our anger, remembering how dangerous it is to repress it. However, anger can also become a habit, our go-to emotion whenever things go wrong. Often this is because, for whatever reason, we feel more comfortable expressing anger than we do other emotions, like sadness. It can also be that getting angry gives us the impression that we've done something about our problem. In these cases, our habitual anger is inhibiting both our ability to express our other emotions and to take action in our lives. If it's true that anger is functioning this way in your life, the first thing you might want to try is to notice when you get angry. You might begin to see a pattern of some kind. For example, you could notice that

Local Skaneateles Kids Read About Lynne Cox for Motivation and Inspiration

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by Lori Ruhlman Skaneateles High School tenth grader Haley Buchholz was preparing to "Escape from the Judge" over Labor Day when she learned some exciting news: record-breaking long distance swimmer Lynne Cox would soon be visiting Skaneateles. "My mom thought I was crazy," Buchholz said about how excited she got when she read the news in her race packet before jumping into the lake for her mile swim to shore. Buchholz, an avid reader and a member of the girls' swim team, has long dreamed of meeting swimmer and author Lynne Cox. She could barely believe it when she learned Cox would come to Skaneateles the week of October 7-14. In addition to many other activities and events, Cox will speak to students in Skaneateles Schools during the day on October 11, and to the entire community at 7 p.m. October 11 in the high school auditorium. Buchholz read "Swimming to Antarctica" by Lynne Cox when she was in seventh grade. She and a group of other s

Dr. Rob Kiltz Welcomes Lynne Cox to Skaneateles: She’s an Author, Open Water Swimmer, Motivational Speaker

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by Lori Ruhlman Community units to welcome Lynne Cox: author, open water swimmer, motivational speaker. A dream of bringing a record-breaking long distance swimmer and acclaimed author to Skaneateles Central Schools has expanded to involve and unite the entire community. Motivational speaker Lynne Cox will be in Skaneateles the week of October 7 to meet with students and community members. She is the author of "Swimming to Antarctica" and several other books. Cox will share stories about her incredible swimming achievements – including a swim across the Bering Strait that helped open relations between the US and Soviet Union in 1987. She first burst into the world spotlight when she swam across the English Channel at age 15 in 1972, shattering the men's and women's world records with a time of nine hours and 57 minutes. She has been swimming ever since. As her story has spread throughout Skaneateles, many groups and organizations have joined in the effor

An Invitation to Love: Angel Meditation

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A meditation with your angels can provide a new gentleness into your normal meditation routine. Though your host of spirit guides encompasses many diverse beings, all of which willingly watch over you, meditating with angels can be a uniquely insightful experience. The angels stationed at your side are both powerful and knowledgeable—they possess a limitless understanding of your needs and desires, your strengths and weaknesses, and your purpose. However, angels take an active part in our lives only when invited to do so. Meditation allows you to make contact with your angels and lovingly request that they participate actively in your day-to-day life. To begin, retreat to a solitary place where you won't be distracted by concerns. Incense and candlelight may aid you in achieving a meditative state but are not necessary. However, laying an image of an angel, angel statue, or item symbolizing your angels before you can focus your thoughts. Sit comfortably, breathe deeply, and

Those Who Came Before: Turning to Ancestors for Guidance

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Our ancestors represent another wellspring from which we may draw for they, too, can act as our spirit guides. Many entities assume the role of spirit guide. Throughout our lives, we may call upon angels, animal and nature spirits, ascended masters, and celestial guardians for aid, protection, and support. Our ancestors represent another wellspring from which we may draw wisdom in times of need for they, too, can act as our spirit guides. Since our forbears spent at least one lifetime experiencing the tribulations that are a part of human existence, the perspective they can offer is a uniquely grounded one. Ancestral spirit guides can empathize with our fears and our frailties, worry, temptation, and feelings of insecurity. Once you have requested their guidance, they will see to it that you emerge unscathed on the far side of conflicts and are well-equipped to fulfill your potential. If your relationship with your relatives was strained when they were earthbound or you feel di

Fewer Muscles to Laugh

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PSSSST! I've got the facts on laughter. Did you know it takes fewer muscles to laugh than it does to frown? A good, hearty laugh positively affects 15 major organs in your body??!! I'll bet you didn't know that 3 minutes of good, hard belly laughter is equal to 20 minutes of strenuous rowing!! It's true. Belly laughter stretches the muscles from the diaphragm all the way up to the scalp. That stretch releases the tension that causes fatigue – stress – and headaches. Do whatever it takes to add a little laughter to your day. ~~~ Yvonne Conte, Motivational Humorist Humor Advantage, Inc. 4736 Onondaga Blvd., Ste. 231 Syracuse, NY 13219 Yvonne Conte Website Voice: 315.487.3771 Fax: 315.487.5633  E-mail Yvonne here   Read More @ Source

Live Telecast~Twin Flames and Soul Mates

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~TWIN FLAMES & SOUL MATES~ Live Telecast with Sheila Applegate Thursday, Oct 4, 2012 at 7PM EST (recording available at your convenience) $ 26 Join me this Thursday Oct, 4 at 7 pm EST For a Powerful and Enlightening Telecast on: TWIN FLAMES AND SOUL MATES~ What do these labels really mean? How do I navigate the dynamics of deep soul mate and twin flame relationships on earth? How can I find my Twin Flame or Soul Mate? How do these connections support my journey to remembering Oneness? How can I master these partnerships to serve others? Submit your questions ~ I want to answer what is in your heart! Class will include Lively Discussion, Guided Meditation and Channeled Message! Access this Class from around the world via telephone or internet~ If you are not available to join in us at the time of class register anyway and listen to the recording at your own convenience. Register Now For $ 26 and receive a $ 50 gift certificate toward future c

Fewer Muscles to Laugh

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PSSSST! I've got the facts on laughter. Did you know it takes fewer muscles to laugh then it does to frown? A good, hearty laugh positively affects 15 major organs in your body??!! I'll bet you didn't know that 3 minutes of good, hard belly laughter is equal to 20 minutes of strenuous rowing!! It's true. Belly laughter stretches the muscles from the diaphragm all the way up to the scalp. That stretch releases the tension that causes fatigue – stress – and headaches. Do whatever it takes to add a little laughter to your day. — ~~~ Yvonne Conte, Motivational Humorist Humor Advantage, Inc. 4736 Onondaga Blvd., Ste. 231 Syracuse, NY 13219 Yvonne Conte Website Voice: 315.487.3771 Fax: 315.487.5633  E-mail Yvonne here   Read More @ Source

Intention and Intuition: The Purpose of an Altar

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The purpose of having an altar in your home can be as simple as reminding you to take time for serenity each day. If you didn't grow up with an altar in your home, having an altar now may seem like an exotic and unattainable idea. Yet having an altar does not have to be complicated or difficult, nor does it need to be based on a religion or a set of ideas that don't seem to relate to you. An altar can be a simple, personal expression of what you want to focus on right now. You do not have to build anything or take up a lot of space. You do not have to buy anything new or follow a complex set of instructions to create your altar. All you have to do is have a general understanding of what an altar is and the willingness to allow yourself access to this wonderful, ancient tool of transformation. At its most essential, an altar is simply a raised structure that serves as a resting place for meaningful objects. It focuses the eye and provides a place for contemplation and, i

Faith in Your Direction – Dr. Rob Kiltz

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Hello and good morning. A beautiful day and into the discomfort of the universe I come. The discomfort of the universe is the most amazing thing we live every day. Feel the amazing discomfort every day and love. Have faith in your direction and know where you're going. Have faith that it's moving in the right way. Have faith that every failure you've ever had and will ever have is part of God's creativity of the universe. Have faith that every relationship that you've ever come across has been the gift of the gods. Have faith that you're moving in the right direction this day and every day. Faith and love, that's all that matters. My blessings to you this day and every day. This is Dr. Rob sharing love of life. Read More @ Source

Observing Evolution: Allowing Others to Walk Their Paths

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It is important to allow others to walk their own path because it is just that, their own path. Watching a loved one or a peer traverse a path littered with stumbling blocks can be immensely painful. We instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track and share with them the wisdom we have acquired through experience. Yet all human beings have the right to carve their own paths without being unduly influenced by outside interference. To deny them that right is to deny them enlightenment, as true insight cannot be conveyed in lectures. Rather, each individual must earn independence and illumination by making decisions and reflecting upon the consequences of each choice. In allowing others to walk their paths freely, you honor their right to express their humanity in whatever way they see fit. Though you may not agree with or identify with their choices, understand that each person must learn in their own way and at their own pace. The events and circumstances that shape our

3 Easy Ways to Be Present & Relieve Stress ~ Judith’s weekly tips

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Being in the present moment relieves stress, eases anxiety, and assists you to build a stronger immune system. Stress can sneak up on you and create both mental and physical problems sometimes before you realize it has struck. We are so used to being stressed that it takes an overwhelming amount for us to finally pay attention to it. It does not need to be this way. I was at Kripalu (retreat and Yoga center) this past weekend and I noticed my stress level dropping more each minute. I spent a bit of time trying to figure out why Yoga class at Kripalu was more relaxing than my Yoga at home, or why my meditation was deeper at Kripalu. Even my walks felt more centered and alive. Then a light bulb went off. It was because I was completely present. There were no meals to cook, work to do, or anyone needing anything from me. It made it very easy to be in the present moment all weekend. Every morning at Kripalu the dining room has a silent breakfast. It is easy to be present when yo

Aging Parents: The Cycle of Life

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When we begin to deal with parents that are aging, it can be a good time to examine your life together and familial past. For most of us a natural part of the cycle of life is when our roles as children start to shift from that into caretaking roles where are parents are concerned. This can be as major moving a parent into a retirement facility, or coming to the realization that it's necessary to check in with them more often than usual. Whatever the case, such a shift is momentous as it signals a time of confronting our own mortality as we confront that of our parents. In addition, it can bring up issues about how well they cared for us when we were young. We may also find ourselves consumed with fear at the thought of losing them, even if we've been on our own for a very long time. Talking to other friends and family who are going through similar experiences can be a large source of support. They can help us look at both the unresolved past and the unfolding present,

Seasons of Beauty: Aging Gracefully

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As we cultivate our life, our beauty becomes as much about what we are creating and doing as it is about our appearance. We tend to associate youth with beauty, but the truth is that beauty transcends every age. Just as a deciduous tree is stunning in all its stages—from its full leafy green in the summer to its naked skeleton during winter and everything in between—human beings are beautiful throughout their life spans. The early years of our lives tend to be about learning and experiencing as much as we possibly can. We move through the world like sponges, absorbing the ideas of other people and the world. Like a tree in spring, we are waking up to the world. In this youthful phase of life, our physical strength, youth, and beauty help open doors and attract attention. Gradually, we begin to use the information we have gathered to form ideas and opinions of our own. As we cultivate our philosophy about life, our beauty becomes as much about what we are saying, doing, and crea